Resources
Welcome to the Resources page, where you'll find a curated list of helpful materials to support your journey towards personal growth and improved relationships.
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Couples
The Secure Relationship on Instagram
The Four Horsemen & Their Antidotes
Gottman Podcast - I often give my couples homework assignment to find an episode or two of The Small Things Often podcast re: some topics that may be relevant or intriguing to you. It gives you an opportunity to listen together, or at least discuss together, and understand each other.
The Enemy Is Not Your Partner – It’s the Distress Cycle - EFT is the approach I utilize with my couples in session. Being able to understand your distress cycle with your partner is the most important part of moving through it differently. This image from the article is a great visual for what happens when conflict occurs within your partnership.
Feelings Wheel - In terms of communicating, I like to encourage people to use "I feel ___ about/because ____ . I need _______ (positive need)." This helps slow down how we express ourselves, so we can better “catch” and validate our partner’s feelings.
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Individuals
The Hidden Brain: Being Kind to Yourself podcast for self-compassion
The Hidden Brain: The Path to Enough podcast
The Happiness Lab Podcast with Dr. Laurie Santos A Daily Workout to Tackle Nagging Self-Criticism
Oftentimes we get stuck in cycles with our partners, parents, or friends where we start to feel like parents even though we aren’t- this article is a really great summary of understanding how to better conduct yourself in these dynamics to get a different response.
When I talk about vulnerability, I often think about Brene Brown, and like to share this video.
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Parts Work
How to Do Inner-Child Work for Healing Trauma and Self-Acceptance - a great intro to inner child work
Parts work (more of what I utilize) - Gabby Bernstein - The Therapy That Changed My Life
Parts Work: An Illustrated Guide to Your Inner Life
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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
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Shadow Work
A Definitive Guide to Jungian Shadow Work: How to Get to Know and Integrate Your Dark Side/ A Definitive Guide to Jungian Shadow Work: How to Get to Know and Integrate Your Dark Side/ - this one is my fave
Shadow Work: 7 Steps to Heal the Wounded Self
Shadow Self 101: What It Is & How To Embrace It, According To Experts
