Resources
These are the links I actually send people, the ones that keep coming up in session
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@thesecurerelationship on Instagram — the account I point people to for bite-sized attachment content between sessions.
Being Kind to Yourself (Hidden Brain) — for when your inner voice needs a rewrite.
The Path to Enough (Hidden Brain) — on what "enough" actually means, and why it keeps moving on you.
The Four Horsemen & Their Antidotes
The Enemy Is Not Your Partner – It’s the Distress Cycle - understanding your distress cycle together is the biggest lever for change
Feelings Wheel - Ihe shortcut I give people in session: "I feel ___ about/because ___. I need ___."
A Daily Workout to Tackle Nagging Self-Criticism (The Happiness Lab) — an actual practice, not just an idea, for the self-critical voice.
Money For Couples with Ramit Sethi — real couples, real money fights, no judgment.
Why ADHD Regulation Works Better Than Chasing Symptoms (ADHD with Jenna Free) — the reframe I wish more people heard: it's nervous system regulation, not symptom whack-a-mole.